Incendiary topic

[drscott]

From email:

You're getting at one of my pet peeves -- no one is obligated to be attracted to anyone, to have sex, or even to explain why they don't feel like it. Anyone who insinuates otherwise is off my list of people I'm civil to. I got just about enough of this crap when I was young to last a lifetime. The apparently still widespread "he didn't want to have sex with me so he must have 1) internalized homophobia 2) HIV phobia 3) a perfect-body fixation 4) cockteasing tendencies" is a sign of immaturity no matter how old the person expressing it is.

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[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

Umm, I don't think you were reading it right, Robert [he said formally.] I'm the author -- I just grabbed this piece of grumbling out context. I was complaining about people who've wanted to have sex with me and then projected a laundry list of reasons (most derogatory) onto me when I said no. The nastiest implied I had some sort of mental problem - having grabbed me in the crotch and discovered me to be hard, for example, my refusal to go home with them to be fucked silly (or whatever) must be a sign of a disordered mind. It couldn't be because they were drunk, or not my type, or just didn't interest me... nope, had to be something wrong with me.

[fuzzygruf.livejournal.com]

Curtis, thanks for explaining this more. I read the original post several times earlier today, and I didn't follow the context. Sometimes I'm just not good at reading between lines.

Now that it's more clear to me, it rings a bell with a certain "friend" of mine. He does this type of thing all the time. I call him on it, asking what he would do if he were the one who was not interested. He never has an answer, and he never sees the point. (I don't enjoy his negativity, and I now avoid him when possible.)

Hard to fathom that there are people who actually think like that.