Why You Should Lie About Being Married

[drscott]

I can remember some controversy here about partnered men claiming to be single to pick up strangers. But in my experience (and here's the research backing me up) you're better off claiming to be partnered, which influences strangers to believe you are more reliable and desirable. And you most likely are!

So if you're single, lie and claim you are married. Win! It also makes detaching yourself from your admirers ever so much easier.

Comments

[pklexton.livejournal.com]

This kind of dovetails nicely with your post about seeing more interest when you are with someone else at the gym. I guess people pick up on other people's validation, or it's the competitive instinct kicking in and they're just wanting other people's stuff.

[pklexton.livejournal.com]

It also makes detaching yourself from your admirers ever so much easier.

Them discovering the lie might also help the detaching thing.

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

Good point, but that leaves you with a reputation as a liar instead of someone honestly dedicated to keeping partners happy. Not so good. :-)

[anziulewicz.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the advice. Maybe NOW I can finally get laid!

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

Glad to be of service! ;-)

[dendren.livejournal.com]

I don't know... I get tired of the "why are the good ones always taken" line.

(but yes, I have found my they want me factor seems to be higher when they know I am married...)

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

You can answer that line with, "so why aren't you??" Good way to stop the conversation. :-)

[dendren.livejournal.com]

LOL... I actually used that exact answer several times. Either that or if I'm feeling particularly dickish I say something like "give me a break... you know me 20 minutes and you decide I'm one of the good ones... no wonder........"

[guiser1.livejournal.com]

This is the rudest post I've read in a long time.

Congratulations.

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

[blush] Thanks ever so much!

Of course I'm kidding.

[fuzzygruf.livejournal.com]

Wouldn't it just be easier to be pretty?

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

Being pretty takes a lot of time and effort!

[excessor.livejournal.com]

This seems obvious, doesn't it? Seeing Person A with Person B (instead of alone), engaged in conversation, doing something together, probably smiling or laughing, allows you to mentally rehearse how you could be Person B.

Many people have noticed that the only time people show interest is when you're seen with someone else.

But not in my case. I can hear them whispering in the corners, “What's that hot Curtis doing with him? Why would anyone like Curtis go out with someone so damaged?” Oy.

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

[schedules more therapy for you]

I dunno. It's true people appearing to have a good time with others look more attractive, but OTOH, I usually feel like I would be intruding to try to break into a group conversation, so I tend to go try to talk to someone by themselves looking a bit lost.

[balanceinchaos.livejournal.com]

you also seem to have a drive to shelter and protect "lost little boys" (aka. men who are still emotionally lost/young/hurting)

at least, that's what I get from what I've read of your journal thus far.

[omero-hassan.livejournal.com]

And so it goes: I could hear people saying "How nice of Curtis and Paul to be doing outreach to that poor lonely shut-in. How charitable of them!"

;o)

[balanceinchaos.livejournal.com]

From what I've read on at least 3 blogs, you are a delightful guest and an interesting companion. Not sure what "those others" have to say against interesting, delightful companionship :p

[foodpoisoningsf.livejournal.com]

I don't know about "more reliable". More like "reliably slutty".

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

You sya that like it's s bad thing.

[ptownnyc.livejournal.com]

As a married, I prefer my slutty rendezvous with the married. It's just safer.

[pklexton.livejournal.com]

*gasp*

minx

[dendren.livejournal.com]

ding ding ding... agreed! usually at least...

[omero-hassan.livejournal.com]

Makes sense: lots of people want an escape hatch, and the fact that a more permanent connection appears to be foreclosed may make some people more willing to take the plunge initially. And if neither wants anything lasting, then the lie need never come out.

[ciddyguy.livejournal.com]

and the OTHER flip side to this whole thing is what if the man (or woman) in said relationship, appearing all happy and such is really just a deuche?

I mean, it's all about the perception, er, the perceived perception anyway. :-)

[beastbriskett.livejournal.com]

Ah l'amor, l'amor! Where does it get you? On the train to Reno...