Couldn't agree more. Incivility (mostly in the form of "you're not furthering my sexual agenda, so get out of my sight") is the source of the complaints -- both the original complaint about the outer gay community and the complaints about bear groups. One or two instances of "attitude" and you're primed to see it where it doesn't exist.
I haven't read Bears on Bears -- sounds like a useful prep for field research. I find just about everybody interesting at some level. Guys who make me think of sex at first glance are now very rare [partly because my sex drive is down, partly because I'm less interested in appearance], so if those were the only people I was willing to associate with, I'd be isolated indeed.
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Date: 2004-01-26 11:37 am (UTC)I haven't read Bears on Bears -- sounds like a useful prep for field research. I find just about everybody interesting at some level. Guys who make me think of sex at first glance are now very rare [partly because my sex drive is down, partly because I'm less interested in appearance], so if those were the only people I was willing to associate with, I'd be isolated indeed.