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On addiction
Jan. 11th, 2004 02:58 pmHumans instinctively run to aid others in pain. The urge is so strong that people will dive into dangerous waters and risk their own lives.
I learned early on to avoid people who gave off signals that they didn't value other people's feelings. Most of us do this out of self-preservation. We can't know what's going on in their heads or why they can't feel others' pain, and we have enough to do taking care of ourselves and the nicer people we know.
I have an acquaintance who I've always avoided because of this meanness (and note that "mean" means stingy as well as unkind -- mean people often acting that way because they cannot feel secure enough to be generous.) But I've also felt "there but for the grace of God go I," because under the surface I sensed a congruency and could easily see how I might have gone down the same dead-end addictive path.
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I learned early on to avoid people who gave off signals that they didn't value other people's feelings. Most of us do this out of self-preservation. We can't know what's going on in their heads or why they can't feel others' pain, and we have enough to do taking care of ourselves and the nicer people we know.
I have an acquaintance who I've always avoided because of this meanness (and note that "mean" means stingy as well as unkind -- mean people often acting that way because they cannot feel secure enough to be generous.) But I've also felt "there but for the grace of God go I," because under the surface I sensed a congruency and could easily see how I might have gone down the same dead-end addictive path.
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